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Romance As a Senior Citizen

Many seniors are getting back into the dating world. As people are living much longer than they have in the past many older people are looking for love again after their spouses have passed. This can be an easy and fun activity, mature dating is an exciting way to pass retirement especially if one lives in a retirement community or is active in senior citizens events. Mature dating is becoming very common place in today’s society as people are less inclined to live out their often many golden years alone. But there are many mature daters who do not live in retirement communities and are tired of seeing the same faces in senior events.

For these more adventurous seniors they can seek love elsewhere. The most obvious place these days is the Internet but for mature daters this poses its own set of problems. Many mature daters are not familiar with the Internet or technology. For those that are this can be an easy way to keep in touch with people and find new friends. However for seniors not familiar with the Internet and technology then this could be an overwhelming prospect for them. And setting up an online account can be daunting for someone not used to the ins and outs of Internet usage. Not to mention the scam artists who troll dating sites looking to spam or elicit information from unsuspecting victims.

To avoid this it would be better for mature daters to try a matchmaker instead. A professional matchmaker would be able to set them up with other mature daters in their area as well as set up meetings and dates for them. This would help greatly as most mature daters have not actually dated anyone for many years and may be a bit shy. A matchmaker can serve as a friendly face to help guide them back into the world of dating. This can help the mature dater make better decisions about who they want to see rather than dating just anyone because that is what is available to them. A matchmaker would be able to set them up with people that would enjoy that they may not be able to meet on a day-to-day basis.

This would also help the mature dater expand their circle of friends so even if they choose not to continue to see a person romantically they can keep contact with them for as long as its beneficial to them both. And the matchmaker will be there to fill in the romantic void with the next match.

Also, the use a matchmaker would allow a more concise number of people that are possible matches. Instead of the sea that one would find on the Internet, a matchmaker picks and displays only the highest quality matches for the potential mature dater.

Mature dating is on the rise as people are living much longer and many people are outliving their spouses. There is no reason that an older person should have to live out the rest of their days alone and whether they use the Internet, senior centers, or matchmakers to find that romantic match the important thing is that they get out there enjoy themselves.

Online Dating Romance

In online dating, you may have found the perfect match for you. But the problem is both of you are miles away from each other. If you are in such situation; especially when it’s your first time to be in online dating, how do both of you work it out?

Some online relationships develop so quickly. Even with the short time that you get to know each other, the love you have felt is so intense that you won’t mind the distance and it won’t let you stop loving each other. Even with the absence of physical contact; the two of you are being pulled towards each other with such strong feelings and chemistry. You have may have been used to the chats and long phone calls; you may even be comfortable with this kind of set-up. But the time will come when those are no longer enough. You look forward to that day, where you and your partner really get to meet up. And then, you can continue your relationship to the next level.

So you are into this whirlwind of romance and now you ask, what’s next? What is the best time frame for you to meet up with the one you love? When is the perfect time to consider meeting your date in person? How do you know whether this person is ready to meet up? Or when will you discover that he is “the one”? The answer depends on a couple of things:

First of all, consider the distance. There might be a stretch of ocean and land separating you two. The farther you are from one another then the longer time frame for both of you to actually get to know each other personally. And you’ll need to be investing in time and money to meet in person.

Second, how fast and how far is your relationship heading? What’s your pace? How do you want your relationship to progress? This includes exchanging e-mails, photographs, information and the like; in which you’ll get to uncover more and more about your Italian Single.

Third, you should learn how to balance your priorities. Find out what’s going on right now and where your relationship is going. Exchanging e-mails for too long would create that sense of too much comfort or familiarity that may not be present when you two get to meet. Remember, you decide how you would present yourself. You could be one sided when it comes to your partner and be blindsided too, which could lead to a false sense of security. Other than that, how you present yourself could also create an illusion, because you tend to see things the way you want to see it.

You should not just be dictated by your emotions, let your instincts kick in. You two will never reach the next stage of your relationship when you won’t log off and start dating in person. You won’t mature in your relationship when the only means of communication that you have is through chats or e-mails. You will need to hear each in person and interact face-to-face. When that time comes, you will be able to tell whether that person is the right one for you and if he is worth it. You two should be able to connect online and offline when that time comes.

Should I Check My Date?

The answer to the question “Should I check my date?” is a definite yes. The online dating world is rife with online scams and frauds. People find it hard to believe that they can be victims of online scams and that’s why many of the online fraud cases are not even reported to the police. Unfortunately it could happen to you . It happens to many smart and reasonable people, because emotions have a weird way of affecting your good judgment.

What are the typical signs of the so called” romance'” or ” sweetheart” scammers?

1. They would shower you with attention and compliments. They know exactly what to say and when to say it, because they are manipulative masters of female psychology.

2. They usually have a story. A sad and heartbreaking story that is meant to leave the victim deeply touched.

3. They are skilled at building feelings of mutual trust and bonding. Why? Well you are dealing with professionals here. And they know that trust is essential for any scam to work.

4. They don’t disclose personal information easily. They won’t tell you where they live and where they work right away. There is always some sense of mystery that surrounds them.

Now these are just few of the warning signs that you could be dealing with a romance scammer. Sometimes you have to listen to your intuition and if something doesn’t feel right you shouldn’t ignore it just because he seems so perfect in every other way.

And if the thought “Should I check my date?” is lingering at the back of your mind, don’t hesitate. Proceed to action.

How to Help Make Online Dating Romance

Online dating has been around for over 20 years, and has grown in popularity each year. Today, with over 1,500 dating sites, it is a $4 billion dollar industry with hundreds of millions of members.

As online dating becomes more prevalent, so does the existence of ‘romance scammers’.

Who are romance scammers? They are individuals often located in Africa or Western Europe who join dating sites with a fake name and fake profile. They message several dozen (or hundreds of) members, and attempt to start a dialogue via Email (away from the dating site).

Their objective is to start a virtual relationship with someone, and then at some point request money, sight unseen. Sadly, this is a common occurrence, and people are duped every day.

Having said that, there are some red flags an online dater can watch for to ensure they don’t fall victim to one of these scams. Here are some of the biggest ones:

1. There are no plans to meet in person. Romance scammers will never want to meet face to face, because they are not what their photo suggests. They will usually make up a story about being abroad for work. If there are no plans to meet face to face, move on.

2. Their grasp of English is typically poor. Romance scammers are usually not native English speakers, and this usually comes across in their messages. This is not to suggest that everyone with poor grammar is a scammer; however, if they claim to be native speakers and you notice many glaring errors, it is a red flag.

3. Their photo seems too perfect. It’s common for romance scammers to use the most attractive photo they can find as their profile photo. They want to attract attention, of course, and this is the best way. If you are surprised that such a gorgeous person reaches out to you first with a desire to speak, it may be a red flag.

4. Insistence in communicating outside the dating site. If the first message you receive is accompanied by an Email address and an insistence to speak directly via Email, beware — unless there is a good reason, there should be no problem communicating on the dating site’s messaging system.

5. They ask you for money. This is, by far, the biggest and most obvious red flag, and yet people are still often duped. It should be an unbreakable personal rule that you never give money to anyone whom you met on a dating site, under any circumstances.

Online dating is so popular for a reason — it is an efficient way to communicate with and meet other singles, and it can be a springboard to a meaningful relationship. Simply heed this advice and make sure you are not fooled by someone who it out for your money.

Dating, Romance Finding the Right Mate

Everyone may have surely been into entertaining the concept of finding the right mate. They say that the genuine happiness that would be felt within a relationship only comes about when one finds the right mate. This may be a very ambitious venture but as human nature is concerned, it is very rare for one to find contentment. There is always the unconscious drive to look for someone better–as in a mate. After all, who would want to deal in a lifetime with someone who is filled with flaws? For sure, finding the right mate is an adventure that many individuals take into their own hands.

Is there such a perfect mate? Girls and boys in their adolescent years always come up with the concept of an ideal man and woman. They often create a checklist bearing their standards for a mate. They are confined to the idea that they could one day find the right mate for them. Is it possible then? How many women swear that they would never love again? How many men have been cursing women because of some misdeeds? Life and romance sometimes do not go along well. But then there should never be the loss of hope on your part because there is someone there who is waiting for you. There is your perfect mate that you ought to find.

How could you do it then? How could you make your search a truly rewarding one? Here are some pointers to keep note of.

Begin by scraping out the losers from your list. They often use the cliché “love is blind and lovers cannot see”. Is it possible that love could blind someone who is under its spell? Well actually it is a fact. Many people seem to be blinded by their love that they fail to recognize the negative side of their partner. Although loving someone must entail understanding and acceptance, martyrdom is not a requirement. Hence, do not be fooling yourself and limiting yourself to the person with whom you are currently involved with.

End your prior relationship before getting into another. Handle your business with other people before you get involved with someone else new. You will just complicate things and by making some reservations, you might realize one day that you are left all alone.

Take note of your five major standards. It is very ordinary that you’ve got some vital requirements for your future mate. You always set a picture-perfect mate that you would want to be involved with. You may actually share with your friends the standards that you have so they could let you realize whether or not they are observable and measurable.

To find the perfect mate, you need to act accordingly when dating. Learn the do’s and don’ts’.
Get backed up. Dating someone whom you are eyeing as a perfect mate could be a scary endeavor but why don’t you tell your friends and family so that they could express their support? They could even give you some valuable ideas.

Do some networking. Meeting people through your acquaintances is one way of enriching your chances of finding a perfect mate for yourself.

Always be happy and think positive. Be firm with your choice and love whom you have as a partner. It is very difficult to spend even a minute or so with a person who does not even seem to interest you. How could you face the other person if you do not have any positive feelings toward him or her?

Assert yourself. Assert your likes and dislikes so that you’ll not end up regretting in the end.

Finding a perfect mate is not only to be relied on your fate. As they always say, you’ve got to put in your effort and be true to yourself because the perfect mate would come along if the person sees the genuineness in you. There is no necessity to pretend to be someone whom you are not because this is a big turn off.

Love and Marriage – How to Meet the Right Woman

So you are the knight in shining armor? The problem is, you don’t have a princess to defend with. Let me share you something that is sitting right there, under your nose: “Women are everywhere and the right woman is one you can see strolling at the mall, bookstore, coffee bar, internet dating sites, work, clubs, etc.” Now that you know that you realize that you don’t to be somewhere special to meet the right women, the next thing your should learn is the art of the actually meeting her. Here are the ways:

First, show confidence! You may not be aware of this but women are shyer then you are. Most women, especially those who are looking for the right man, love to be approached as well. So better get on your knees, approach someone and initiate a good conversation. Easier said that done right? One word my friend: “confidence!” Shaking knees and a mumbling mouth are things you should never have. Opportunity knocks only once so better grab it. If you see someone you like, approach her. With a right timing and proper approach, you will end up seating with her at a coffee bar all the way to a dinner table. Also, women love to see men who bear confidence. While this may not be an overnight success, you can always have your confidence developed. As they say, “right practice makes perfect”, so practice, practice, and practice more. Start at your office and talk to women colleagues. Then initiate a conversation with the waitress at a restaurant or the cashier at the grocery. As you build confidence through casual conversations with people, you let go your shaking knees and mumbling mouth.

Second, master the art of conversation. Now that you have finally had the guts to approach women, you should know how to initiate a conversation. Your first words will really make the difference between a “yes” to a dinner or a something like this: “Hi, what’s your name” and she replies “Hi, I’m leaving”. Pick up lines like, “Gee, that’s a nice set of legs, what time do they open?” or “Am I dead, Angel? Cause this must be heaven!” are something that will definitely end a conversation that hasn’t begun at all. Make good at this by being sincere, being spontaneous, and not sounding so desperate. Again, it takes practice so if your first approach to a woman at the mall is not successful, do not stop trying. A good sense of humor is always a winner to good women so have them on your reserve and take them out when necessary.

An approach and conversation is not enough. You still need the follow up. So the third thing you should do is to know how to keep a woman wanting. A first date can only have a take two if the woman finds that you are interesting so keep her guessing. Do not tell everything about yourself during the first date. Not only you will dominate the whole conversation and piss your date off, you will also have nothing to say on your second date if ever it will happen. Keep her wanting like the “Arabian Nights”.

Most men think that pampering their lady will keep her wanting him. The fact is, it is entirely the exact opposite. Did you ever wonder why many women love “bad boys”? It is because “bad boys” give no regard with women in the way they treat them. Women who are often pampered by men feel that they have the need to get everything they want so they are on a hot pursuit to “bad boys” who keep on playing hard to get.

Finally, meeting the right men does not end up on having the right confidence, knowing the proper way approach, and keeping women wanting because a meeting the right women may not end on a single try. You may have dated a woman and have successfully done all these 3 but still, she does not fit to the definition of “the one” for you. Meeting the right woman is a never-ending process until you are finally convinced that she is “the one”.

Dating Romancing Your Date

Dating has many faces. The kind of misconception about dating that you have is influenced by the number of dates you have had. Any dating experience that is devoid of romance is like gun without bullets or a woman without breasts. If at all you have been considering yourself as defunct in the line if romance, you can easily count yourself wrong. Saying that you are not romantic is like saying that you can never fall in love. If these are your thoughts you must forget them and develop something worthwhile. Dating is the food of the soul while the romance is the beverage that quenches your love buds with a dose of human contentment. There is no human being under the sun and below the ozone layer who lacks the ability to bow unto love.

Then it comes automatically that if you can fall in love then you can be romantic. Dating instances are the ones which provoke romantic emotions. Romance is squarely at the nucleus of every dating experience. Romance has never been the grand of vast gestures but manifested in those small details. It has been said that it is those small things that really matter. Small gestures they might be but that is not the end, it is paramount that both human beings who are dating begin being romantic. Romance comes as a two way process which makes both the two crazy human beings in the line of love to begin deriving pleasure by showing their tender sides that depict caring for each other.

It is easy to hear of romantic excursions where people travel to experience romance, but what you should have in mind is that romance starts closer home before you decide to elongate it. Dating entails you understand the mechanics of romance so that you might comprehend what it entails and why it is important, as well as learning the kind of romantic aspects which your character seems to depict. There is no one anywhere who has a heart carved out of soapstone as tough as their exterior might be.

Romantic aspects in dating show that romance does not come as the sole fortress of females and it has been ascertained that those men who are successful in the line of romance are far much successful in dating. Romance is not affected by any dimension of masculinity, whatsoever. In fact, if you are romantic, it can easily enhance your reputation with handling of females. On the other hand, it is not all females who are natural romantics; it must always be the case. For your dating success, you must remember that the important thing in romance comes largely as thoughtfulness. Begin being more thoughtful and kind and you will enjoy the intimate fruits that romance throws your way.